“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance!” Oscar Wilde
Marguerite Schultz • March 8, 2018
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It is said that one of the kindest things you can do for yourself is accept yourself just the way you are. It is also said that one of the bravest things you can do is stretch yourself and reach for your dreams. So which is it, self-acceptance or self-improvement? The truth is both. Psychologically speaking, if we are to improve ourselves and be happy and peaceful along the way, we have to learn to navigate the fine line between self-acceptance and self-improvement.

Everything we do (including all the “bettering” of our lovely selves) must come from a place of self-acceptance and love if it is to be of any real lasting benefit. No good ever came from beating ourselves into being better. In fact, pushing, criticising, and punishing are practices that leave us feeling empty, inferior and ultimately unmotivated, goal reached or not!If we are to ever make sustainable positive change and maintain a sense of fun and perspective along the way, the change must come from a place of unconditional love and positive regard for ourselves. From this healthy platform, change becomes fun and adventurous.

After all, there is no doubt that we can achieve goals through pure grit and determination. The problem is we are at risk of feeling empty and fatigued if sheer determination is not balanced with great big doses of creativity, fun and self-encouragement.

Here are Few Ideas to Keep Things in Balance

1. Remind yourself that you are worthy and wonderful, yes do this…. EVERY day!

2. Slow down and take in the beautiful things, they are always around us, besides, conquering the mountain is no fun if you miss the view, the flowers and the “lolly and water“ stops on the way up.

3. Have a grateful heart, be thankful to your body for carrying you around, your mind for giving you ideas, your spirit for giving you fuel and your soul for giving you the ability to make connections with people. These parts of you are functioning in the background all the time, so take the time to notice and say thank you.

4. Pace yourself. Self-improvement is a wonderful thing but must be paced. Sometimes asking if you would expect someone else to do the same thing for the same length of time, under the same circumstance can help you to gain perspective on how realistic you are being with yourself.

5. Finally, make sure your self-talk mimics that of a good friend “Good for you, going to the gym, making a sale, finishing an assignment”, “well done champion, you made a yummy dinner after a big day”, “great job sweetness, you got another load of washing done while the kiddies ate a sandwich, you are a rock star!”etc etc etc.

Think about some of the ways you can develop your own kindness and self -acceptance practices. You will be so glad you did!

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Does my child need therapy?

By Marguerite Schultz • June 15, 2024
We are often asked by concerned parents whether their child needs to see a Psychologist. Determining whether your child needs psychological support can depend on various factors.
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The Benefits of Online Therapy

By Marguerite Schultz • July 29, 2021
What is lockdown stress? During times of elevated stress, it is important to take care of yourself in whatever way your can. Lockdown is one of those times.
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The Best Thing You Can Do to Feel Better

By Marguerite Schultz • July 18, 2021
Exercise is one of the best ways to improve your health and not just physically but mentally too. In fact, exercise is so good for the brain that it is fondly referred to as “Brain-ercise”.
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Happy Mum’s Guide to Parenting

By Marguerite Schultz • July 16, 2021
Raising children can be stressful. Parenting is hard because parenting is not a one-size-fits-all job. You have to be continually learning, growing, and adapting as your kids grow and change.
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What to Expect At Your First Psychology Visit

By Fotini Koklas • April 5, 2021
Going to see a Psychologist for the first time can feel really scary and nerve-wracking when you don’t know what to expect. Some of the things that my first-time clients say include things like: “I’m afraid I will be judged”, “I’m afraid you’ll think I’m broken or faulty or worse, maybe even unstable or crazy”, “I’m afraid of revisiting painful memories” and “I’m worried I will be expected to change when I’m not ready”.
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Resting in Certainty

By Marguerite Schultz • September 13, 2020
In times of uncertainty it can be so easy to feel like you are adrift on an ocean not sure which way is North …not a great feeling. In fact, I often say to clients that psychologically, living in the “unknown” is one of the hardest places to live.
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Black and White or Colour Your World ?

By Marguerite Schultz • September 11, 2020
Do you need to splash some colour around your life (be silly, have fun, get creative, bend a rule, let your inner child out for a play) or do your need more structure and order? The post Black and White or Colour Your World ? Appeared first on Living Well Psychology.
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Get Your Stress to Work for You, Not Against You!

By Marguerite Schultz • March 6, 2019
Stress is part of daily life, no getting around it. However, what if you could use this guaranteed contribution to your day as a resource and set it to work for you? Like most things in life, our perception plays a monumental role in the outcome…
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What is Anxiety?

By Marguerite Schultz • March 22, 2018
Everyone feels stress or worry from time and time. This level of worry will come and go and tends to by limited in its impact on our overall quality of life. Anxiety however doesn’t follow this pattern, and often permeates our thought lives, and can interfere significantly with our day to day choices and behaviours.
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What is relationship counselling?

By Marguerite Schultz • March 7, 2018
A relationship can exist in many shapes and forms and across a lifetime, they will thread us into multiple connections with other people. These attachments are vital because they create a sense of belonging and connection which improves our sense of self and adds meaning to our lives.